Your mind inflicts suffering like no other person can.
Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into oblivion and drag you through the mud until the cows come home.
Can you tell I[...]
Research now shows that the way you handle minor daily stressors – those little annoyances – has a tremendous impact on your long-term health.
Human nature is to justify the nasty little moods, childish reactions and general grumpiness because “life is so stressful.” We a[...]
I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it.
I get caught up in the moment and forget about practical reality. Of course, this is exactly what the salespeople are looking for and, embarrassingly, I’m like a fish on a hook.
I have owned 16 differ[...]
A lot of people think they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other.
In reality, they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little devil disguised as an angel on the other.
These two little devils aren’t cute. They mean business. Their bu[...]
Do you wish you had better ways of getting unstuck?
A lot of us subconsciously hold to the misconception that we should never be stuck in the first place.
So, when we inevitably get stuck with a low mood, lack of motivation or super high stress, we double the trouble b[...]
Life is a series of wrong turns...that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us.
The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is a struggle, I’m probably going to respond to the majority of situations from that per[...]
The AHA Solution program has been out for one month now. Based on the most finished videos, we can now tell which attachments are the most common. We've had a little bet going as to which attachments would be the most popular of the 12.
We've discovered that people can be[...]
Does self-awareness really lead to health and healing?
Self-awareness is touted as a powerful form of healing, yet it often does nothing for us. Being aware that you have a problem doesn't mean the problem is going to magically vanish, right?
Does this mean increased s[...]
We all want to live happy, fulfilled lives. Sometimes, however, it seems like we've become experts at avoiding happiness.
If you are missing out on your share of happiness, you may have unconscious beliefs that make it impossible to experience happiness. In fact, at some [...]
There’s lots of talk these days about whether NLP is pseudoscience. Claims have been made. So-called researchers are sneering at the “pseudoscience of NLP.”
NLP trainers are up in arms. The debate is very real, as it affects the lives of good people who use NLP to help ot[...]
You might not believe the extreme measures I took to win my older brother’s approval.
They all failed.
When I started businesses that succeeded against the odds, he shrugged his shoulders. When I took up expensive hobbies (that I suck at) because he loves them, he show[...]
How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved?
Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe we actually pick a person that has the p[...]
Do you wish you were a more positive person?
Most people do. In fact, inner negativity is a universal problem. Chronic negativity can smother the naturally positive person that you are, deep down.
The entire world is suffering with this issue, believe it or not! To fre[...]
Does NLP work? This is a question I get from time to time and I have a definite answer. Not everyone likes the answer, but it's true!
NLP is a tool. Like any tool, it can be used to create something worthwhile or it can be used by schmucks. I worry when people ask, “Does [...]
Understanding where your spouse is coming from is key to being happier. You’re spouse may have no interest at all in understanding him or herself, but by understanding his or her psychological attachments you can keep him or her from driving you crazy.
I have a friend, Cl[...]
NLP anchoring is a cool and simple tool.
In a nutshell, NLP anchoring is when you associate a physical touch with a feeling you want to have. You may have used anchoring before and not even known it.
Have you ever put a rubber band around your wrist and snapped it each[...]
What is self-sabotage?
Self-sabotage is a term we throw around a lot . We know what it is in a general sense or when we see someone doing it. But what is it really?
When we talk about self-sabotage, we are talking about getting in our own way. It’s not something someon[...]
Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries.
Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed w[...]
Many people are surprised to learn that their favorite coping mechanism for handling emotional pain actually causes more problems than it solves.
Let's look at four solid steps to effectively dealing with emotional pain and five reactions that trick you into prolonging it[...]
Are you a control freak?
Or do you live with a control freak?
This article will prove that a control freak is not at all what she (or he) seems. With control freaks, what you see is NOT what you get.
Let’s break down control freaks, figure out what is going on, then[...]
If someone offered you a simple rule that guaranteed a super high level of inner peace, would you follow it?
I hope so, because no matter how many self-help techniques you use, breaking this one rule will still destroy your peace. It is that powerful.
Let's look the ru[...]
Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain?
Most people have an area of their life that just doesn't add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can't make sense of it.
Why do you do things that are counterproductive or even ha[...]
February 10, 2013. Hope and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students.
At any rate, Michael was apologizing to Hope for being late delivering his module:
[...]
I don’t usually come out like this, but on days like today I am embarrassed to call myself an NLP trainer.
If the foundational skills NLP has to offer weren’t unique, I’d leave the field. Alas, we must put up with the battery of lies that “search engine popular” NLP train[...]
How does this happen? One day you were in love, excited to spend each moment together. Now, you're feeling blah and just moving through life pretty much independently.
Are you just so used to each other that you don’t notice one another anymore? It’s like not seeing how d[...]
This article is likely to provoke the following defenses:
Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth.
Read on with caution, and r[...]
For more than 20 years I asked some of the best minds and most successful people in the world a simple question. The answers varied, but none of them were satisfying. The most common answers:
I don’t know.
If we only knew that…
Now, that is the $64,000 question!
Here[...]
Be careful with affirmations.If you don't construct them well, they can backfire. Repeating one-sided fantasy affirmations over and over has a way of encouraging the opposite, just like an extremely low calorie diet has a way of encouraging a binge.For example, if you tell y[...]
Most people have a secret buried so deep that they forget all about it, but that doesn’t make it less real.
So many of us lock this difficult truth away, often taking it to the grave without ever recognizing it, much less acknowledging it.
My goal is to do more than ju[...]
Interviewing Carl Lewis as publisher of Healthy Times was a privilege I will always remember. Here is the original article. Please enjoy!
Carl Lewis' lifetime accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted "Sportsman of the Century" by the Internati[...]
Imagine walking toward a beautiful, white sand beach. The sky is clear, the sun warm. A soft breeze caresses your skin.
You can hear the cheerful sounds of your friends enjoying themselves, having the time of their lives on this perfect day.
You are anticipating a long[...]
Living with some physiological anxiety is inevitable. Anxiety is the brain’s ongoing surveillance to protect you from threats. You should be afraid to touch a hot stove or confront a mugger or jump off a cliff.
Living with daily fears, on the other hand, is not inevitable[...]
Legendary coach John Wooden (1910-2010) has passed on, but I will never forget my 2006 interview with him. He was all but done granting interviews by then, but because I wanted to speak to him about his children's book, Inch and Miles, I was given the rare opportunity. May h[...]
If jumbo size boxes of tissue have been your only worthwhile investment, it is time to change route.
Begin by putting the tear soaked tissues down. In fact, get out bed and throw them away. Being disappointed is a part of life, surrendering to the idea of failure is dea[...]
This article is by Mike and Hope Bundrant, although it is written with a singular voice. You can guess who is talking and when!
Many of us, including myself, suffer with boughts of low self-esteem. I can be going all day feeling great, confident and then, BAM! Something[...]
What can you do in the next two minutes to raise your testosterone levels, decrease your stress hormone levels, and be more persuasive when it really counts?
Sit or stand in a “power pose.”
What’s a power pose? Researchers have identified numerous kinds of body languag[...]
Would you like to possess overflowing self-confidence?
You can, regardless of what you have tried in the past or how much you doubt yourself right now. How can I make this claim?
Because I understand the cornerstone principles upon which self-confidence is based. By th[...]
According to research, the average American lies 11 times a week.
This surprising finding inspired other researchers to establish a connection between lying and health. They found one.
Officially, medical research suggests that telling “fewer” lies increases your physi[...]
Duff McDuffee is a coach and trainer with the iNLP Center.
The TOTE model in NLP explains why conventional psychotherapy goes on and on, and why the “war on drugs” in the United States has no foreseeable end, and why people buy tons of vitamins which they don’t even know [...]
Are you struggling to change a behavior or habit?
Fewer things are more frustrating than failing to make changes that appear so simple.
It's as if you were convinced you could press the change button at the left by touching your computer monitor. There it is...it look[...]
An iNLP subscriber recently asked if she needed to do anything to prepare for her free strategy session with me. After I replied to her email, I realized that I had just discovered the simplest success formula ever!
I asked her to think about two questions in preparation [...]
The following is a guest post by 7-time world champion skydiver and author of the book Above All Else, Dan Brodsky-Chenfeld.
It became obvious that the fight was going to happen. I was about to get beat up and it seemed there was nothing I could do to stop this inevitabil[...]
Would you like to have a few ways to gain inner peace on the spot no matter what the circumstance?
If so, you will find 91 things in the following list that you can do, right now, to create inner peace in the next 60 seconds. These ideas do not require preparation or depe[...]
It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with family members who have serious problems. Because we love them so much, it is hard to see them behaving in hurtful ways that make every one around them miserable. But what can we do when they simply refuse to improve? Luckily, t[...]
This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center.
In NLP there is a model called Eye Accessing Cues. The developers of NLP noticed that when you ask a person to recall something visual, usually their eyes would go up and to their left. This isn't an a[...]
Living a life tainted by regret is a burden carried by far too many.
Immersed in the circumstances of the past, you are blind to hope and chained to thoughts of how things might have been.
If now is the time to move beyond the regrets of the past, please read on for an[...]
I don’t know about you, but I love Disneyland.
I honestly feel like nothing else matters when I’m there. It’s a great place to escape reality and get caught up in the magic of a pretend world. From the fake rocks to the imaginary trips to space, to larger-than-life happy [...]
This is a guest post by iNLP Student Kelli Cooper
There is always a reason why we do the things we do and want the things we want. Sometimes though, as we all know, those reasons are not enough to push us to do what we need to do, even when doing those things will bring r[...]
Have you ever been stung by unjust criticism? It can really get under your skin.
Worse, if you can’t let it go, it eats away at you over time, for months or years in some cases. A single, unfortunate event can turn into an ongoing source of pain.
Letting go is the only[...]
If we had perfect foreknowledge of the future, there would be no such thing as uncertainty.
However, we do not have perfect foreknowledge and never will.
Therefore, uncertainty and anxiety play a major role in life. How can you develop rock solid certainty about the fu[...]
This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center.
Some people who have an amazing skill.
No matter what the evidence to the contrary, they have utter faith in their inability to succeed.
You can point out again and again evidence that contradict[...]
This is a guest post by iNLP student Kelli Cooper.
None of us are perfect, no major revelations there. We know this. But, I think on some level, many of us who seriously take on the path of personal development believe we will reach some state of perfection.
I know whe[...]
Learning the following six stages of human growth and development, synthesized from Maslow and Kohlberg, will help you understand your deeper developmental needs and what to do when. Before reading about the stages, consider the following two points:
1. Developmental psyc[...]
The following is a guest post by iNLP Student Kelli Cooper.
In the intro module to the NLP training at iNLP Center, Mike brought up an excellent point that I think can be applied to all aspects of life --something that I often give a lot of thought to in terms of my perso[...]
Ever feel like life is passing you by, as if you were relegated to the sidelines while everyone else is having the time of their lives? If you are feeling this way, read on! This is just what the doctor ordered.
You will never live fully unless you realize that you are in[...]
Personal development's seven deadly sins are especially dangerous because when you are the sinner, you may not see it. In such a state of sin against your own growth, you often blind yourself to the truth of what you are doing.
It is critical to learn to identify when you[...]
I can't believe how stupid I am. As if anyone would really want to read this article. What could I possibly have to say? I'm just not good enough. Sound familiar?
You know what negative self-talk is, but do you recognize how often you say critical things to yourself? You [...]
This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center.
The amount of new technology that has come about in the past 30 years is astounding. As a result, our lives have changed dramatically. Yet millions of people in the U.S. alone suffer from various fears[...]
This article is a follow up to part one, The Invisible Force that Determines your Happiness and Success, which discussed personal narratives or the stories we rehearse about how our life has unfolded.
Imagine planning a romantic evening with your partner to celebrate your[...]
Most people don't realize that, resting deep within their psyche, a personal narrative is quietly determining how they respond to the world, how they make decisions and how successful they will become.
How does a metaphor do all that? Amazingly, stories and metaphors are [...]
We usually refer to the physical body when we talk about cleansing and detoxification, but emotional cleansing yields results for the mind and emotions that are just as impressive as any good physical detox. An emotional cleanse isn't necessarily easy, but it gives you the a[...]
All else being equal, you have no reason to be self-critical. Your brain and body are inherently self-protective. You value your life and want good things for yourself and those around you.
Otherwise, you would make absolutely zero effort to survive and prosper. If you fi[...]
This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, coach and trainer with the iNLP center.
Why do our fears sometimes seem “larger than life� A recent scientific experiment may hold a clue.
In a recent study done at UCLA ( http://io9.com/5900949/guns-really-do-make-you-look[...]
Transcript from Mental Health Exposed - Air Date 4-18-12
I want to introduce another element to this concept and that is the element of requirements. Personal requirements are related to what Guy Finley called our ambition.
The concept of personal requirements was in[...]
Confusion and other states are malleable and transferable. Much like a lazy yawn, they can be passed on to other people. Jedi Masters use this phenomenon to "steal" confusion so that the original carrier is set free. This NLP Jedi mind trick is rarely shared, so pay attentio[...]
We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Defensiveness flows so easily from these states. Once these emotions get a grip on you, the Dark Side leads you to find fault wi[...]
I stood in front of my father, man to man, and demanded an apology. His long absence and lack of interest during my formative years had burned within me a resentment that wouldn't quit. My therapist suggested that I confront him as one adult to another, so there I was.
It[...]
We all want to believe we are tough to fool.
The problem is, even if you are not so gullible, your brain still works a certain way, making associations that create vulnerability to being easily fooled, or fooling yourself.
It takes work to release yourself from these n[...]
Do you think you are too smart to fall for a scam? Think again.
All over the web, self-proclaimed gurus are telling you lie after blatant lie in order to get your money and pump their ego. Chances are you have fallen for some of their tactics. Here are a few of them for y[...]
What if most moments in your life were filled with exactly what you wanted?
For far too many people, this feels like an impossible dream. Why? Because they have not learned to be thoroughly intentional.
Becoming intentional about most things you do is critical to getti[...]
I live in a blended family and it is one wild ride. At first, of course, everyone was excited about living together and then reality set in. When life in a blended family is challenging, what makes it so?
My wife, Hope, and I are fully invested in our family of seven, so [...]
Neurolinguistic Programming has something very valuable to offer those in search of personal and professional development. Unfortunately, the field of NLP has been inundated with slicks and con artists who have led many astray with promises of "instant rapport" and "easy ch[...]
From fat to fit using Zen Motivation. Lawrence considered himself an average American, a few pounds (70, to be exact) overweight, but fitting right in with his peers, for the most part. Who doesn't throw back a few brewskies in the evening and put away a couple of cheeseburg[...]
Daring to be Yourself By Mike Bundrant with Peter Shepherd
One of the web's first personal development leaders, Peter Shepherd has reached millions of people through trans4mind. His is an empowering message, that people can have a much better life if they are true to them[...]
If you know a few secrets and practice a little, you can master some pretty slick card tricks. Before long you will be dazzling onlookers with your expertise and finesse, controlling the outcome of a series of events that no one else can perceive. Pretty slick.
Cards [...]
Should you Learn NLP? It's a fair question. It was never meant for everyone to learn NLP.
Is it for you? Here are some guidelines to help you sort it out. Read on with an open mind. This may save you some angst.
Get to know the trainer. The knowledge, experience and ch[...]
There are lots of NLP practitioner courses to choose from these days. It can be confusing to sort out each type and decide which one is right for you.
Deciding whom to trust or which program will give you the best experience can be even harder.
Here is a brief summary [...]
Generalizing: The Gift That Leaves A Mess In Its Wake
Without the instinctual ability to generalize, humans wouldn't get very far. Think about it. When you're growing up and learning what things are and how they work, you need to generalize in order for the learning to be[...]
There are some pretty wonderful anti-anxiety medications out there. Xanax and Ativan are extremely popular for short-term bouts of anxiety. Then, there is always the classic Valium, perhaps the most prescribed drug in modern medicine.
These pills offer nearly instant reli[...]
New parents can hardly fathom the day when their teenage or adult children have grown to hate them. To the naive, this is inconceivable, yet many good people are living out their lives with a burden of hatred cast upon them by an adult child.
Why does my child hate me? T[...]
More than you can imagine.
Beneath every lifestyle related medical condition is a core problem: chronic stress. Unhealthy stress is so serious that it can literally take your life, and always does if allowed to persist.
The Mayo Clinic has the following to say about str[...]
Since 1994 I have been traveling to Tokyo, Japan to teach NLP for a wonderful organization called Team Iryo or Team Medicine. Founded by Kazuhiko Umemoto, Team Medicine has been a pioneer in continuing education for Japanese professionals and lay people alike. It was Kazu's [...]
Magic: Any extraordinary or mystical influence, charm, power, etc. that enables human control of supernatural agencies or the forces of nature.
The Slicks of NLP dance their way into your psyche and into your pocketbook with the lure of magic, unlimited power and an invi[...]
I'm embarrassed.
I've been learning and teaching NLP since 1992 and NEVER before have I seen such marketing hype out there. The way NLP is promoted these days, you'd think people were standing in front of the snake oil wagon with the Slick out on the stump pontificating o[...]
No secret techniques. No magic formulas. In case you were wondering, this is all marketing hype. Anyone who promotes NLP by promising access to the inner chamber of the NLP sanctuary that is usually reserved for the top trainers is, well, a liar.
Anyone who sells products[...]
